Let’s face it, we are all in the media business. For me, I operate a media and marketing company that just happens to sell real estate. But let’s not stop there. It’s so much more than that.
It’s about your art and it’s about using your art to champion your cause.
My art is writing and producing videos that provide value to those who consume. My art is writing thoughts like this one and some day, I hope to write a book. My art is giving keynote speeches (ok…another “some day”). My art is marketing homes (every realtors art). You get the point. I am, just like you, an artist.
As hard as it is to be an artist, I don’t want to die with my art in me. Neither should you.
Our cause is our purpose. What is your cause?
For me, my cause is to educate and empower people in my community. My cause is to provide inspiration. My cause is to spread the good news. My cause is to teach, not sell.
People don’t buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it. Your “why” is your cause, and when you bring excellence in art to real estate (or whatever your “field” is) it allows you to champion your cause.
What is your art? What is your cause?
Just a deep thought on Saturday morning. Hope everyone has a great day!
Since I have started my weight loss journey, I have had countless people say, “Don’t call it a diet. Rather call it a lifestyle change.”
You’ve heard it too, right?
Let me be honest with you. It annoys me to no end!
Why are we afraid of calling it what it is? Why do we think that calling it a “lifestyle change” makes it any easier?
Here’s the definition of “diet” in verb form: to restrict oneself to small amounts or special kinds of food in order to lose weight.
Truth be told, that is exactly what I am doing! I didn’t change my lifestyle; I went on a diet! And guess what? It’s working!
Let’s be even more honest; I am a food addict. I need to restrict myself to small amounts or special kinds of food in order to lose and maintain my weight. Period. In other words, I’m on a diet.
I believe for the rest of my life I will be on a diet. I will always need to restrict myself.
An alcoholic who attends an AA meeting always says, “Hi, my name is …, and I’m an alcoholic.” They may be sober for years, but they’ll always fight the urge to drink. For me, I’ll always be on a diet. I’ll always need to fight the urge to eat.
I am not saying that calling it a “lifestyle change” is wrong. I am just asking: Why can’t I call it a diet? When people call it a “lifestyle change” they make it sound easy. It isn’t easy. Some people act as if changing the name will make it easy to lose weight. They make it sound as if “diet” is a “four-letter word.”
It’s like life insurance. Why do we call insurance that pays when we die “life” insurance. Isn’t it really “death” insurance? You don’t make a claim on your life. Instead you make a claim on your death. But who’s going to buy “death” insurance? No one. So they changed the wording.
We can change our lifestyle, but if we have a weight problem, we will still struggle. For example, if you put the salad bar at the end of the buffet, there won’t be any room on my plate for salad by the time I get to it. But, if I’m on a diet, I won’t even go to the buffet line. In the same way, most recovering alcoholics won’t go to a bar. They know that if they have one drink, the next thing they know, they’ll be closing the bar.
Calling it a “lifestyle change” feels to me like a cop out. Let’s be real. Let’s call it what it is. Since I’m addicted to food, and I want to be healthy, I went on a diet.
I haven’t changed my lifestyle. I went on a diet. I’ll be on a diet for the rest of my life. I can never go back. I have to be okay with that. And I think that starts with calling it what it is … a diet. I have never succeeded with weight loss, unless I’ve announced and made it clear that I am on a diet.
I know many disagree with me, and I am okay with that. I just want to express my feelings. Some people use the term “lifestyle change” as a way of cheering you on. For me, it doesn’t help. Instead it feels like some people are minimizing the hard work that many people are doing to stay on a diet.
With that said, you may have another perspective, and I am all ears …
The weight loss journey has officially begun…
I have felt called to take this stand for a while, but I’ve let too many limiting beliefs keep me from actually moving forward.
Surprisingly, once I admitted the challenges I’ve faced with being fat, the response was overwhelming. My hopes was that my journey would help someone. But, thankfully, it’s helped a lot of people so far.
The amount of comments and messages really shows me that I am not alone on this journey. Your support and encouragement has really blown me away, and I can’t thank everyone enough.
[Quick update: as of 12/11/13, I am down 29lbs!]
So to make it real, and to officially kick things off (thank you Beth Crenshaw for the great idea), I’ve created a FB page to document my journey. And it’s called, “The Husky Section”.
BUT, this is NOT just about me. After talking with so many in comments, private messages, emails and phone calls, I invite you to join us all - to connect and encourage each other. The support I’ve received has really helped me, and I want to share that with you.
- Please like the page
- If you feel my story could help and encourage someone you know, then suggest they like the page and share it with them. :-)
So meet me in the husky section and join me on my journey to skinny jeans!
Again, thank you for your support!
Ever since I can remember, I’ve dealt with being, well … what the doctors call “overweight.” To me, it’s just become who I am. For most of my life I’ve made light of it. It was always one way to make fun of myself to make others laugh. And those who know me, know that I love to make people laugh.
You know, there is nothing like shopping for clothes when you’re 12 years old and asking where the HUSKY section is. I mean, really? Why do they have to name the big boy’s section “husky” and not have a name for the skinny kid section?
Or the time I asked the lady working in men’s clothing if she could help me find pants that were 44/30. She repeated, “44/30!?”
“Yeah,” I said, “I’m built like a bowling ball.”
Or the time I called Kohls to see if they have a “Big and Tall” section. The lady who answered said, “Yes … yes, we do, it’s not that HUGE, but we do.”
I jokingly said, “Oh … that’s fine, I’m not that HUGE anyway!”
She quickly said, “No, I mean the section isn’t that big.”
After I told her I was joking, she laughed so hard she snorted.
And I can’t forget to mention the hundred plus times I did Chris Farley impressions to get people to laugh. Give me the microphone, and look out!
Do you get what I’m saying? I love to make people laugh. It’s the way God wired me. But all kidding aside, this funny part of who I am, has gotten out of control. I recently weighed in at 343 lbs. Yeah, I was surprised too!
I said to myself, “enough is enough.” Enough being the funny guy. I’ve got to get real, or I’m not going to see my daughters grow up.
In the last two months, I’ve come to grips with the reality that I have a problem and that I want to get well. To recover from addictions, I know that you have to want to get well. If you don’t want it, you won’t accomplish it.
I’ve tried many diets, and will be successful for a bit, and then I fail. I’ll get motivated and will go to the gym for a couple months straight even though I HATE working out.
Before going on another diet, I figured out that I needed to discover the root of the problem. What is it that keeps me from wanting to lose weight?
With a group of guys I meet with every Friday morning to go deeper in our faith, we learned about idols that can form in our lives. The idols, men can suffer from are; control, significance, and comfort. These key idols can keep us from being the men God indented us to be. For me I discovered, with the help of my friends, that I suffer from all three, but mainly the control idol. I want control of things and often will require control instead of letting God take control.
If I’ve had a tough day, I would often lean on food for comfort, and I could control what ever I wanted to eat. Going to a restaurant, ordering what ever I wanted, and leaving a big tip gave me a feeling of significance.
This is tough for me to admit and to be willing to share this with my readers. But I felt if I shared this, maybe it would help others. I also wanted to share these struggles to face my fear. The fear of commitment of having to follow through with my weight loss plans. In the past, I would never tell people I was on a diet because I didn’t want them to know I failed. But like I said, enough is enough. I need help. I need prayer. I need to lose weight and get healthy.
I am proud to admit that three weeks ago I started a diet. God answered my prayers and clip the chains for me. Similar to chains that were clipped from my drinking and partying days, I was introduced to a diet by my teammate, Jason. It’s called Ideal Protein. It is very strict, but I decided I need very strict. I can’t have any control. I need to give up the control, which is very hard for me to do. So far I’ve lost 20 lbs. It’s going well. It’s hard, but with support I have around me, I know I can do it. I made it through Thanksgiving, which was torture, but I did it. I have received huge support from my wife. Thank you, Jenny!
In the upcoming months, I plan to blog more about the diet. The pros and the cons. Hopefully, my journey will inspire someone else to say, “Enough is enough.”
How about you? Do you struggle with weight loss like I do? I would love to hear from you. I would like to encourage and pray for you. Always feel welcome to email me (neilmathweg at gmail dot com).